Fear is a stronger motivator for humans because it helped us survive potentially life-threatening situations. You're smart to fear wild animals, or large trains heading toward you. You can't afford the luxury of analysis in these situations. A delay could cost you your life.

On the other hand, in our modern society, there isn't much you need to fear. In fact, we fear too much already.

And the fear that is most crippling is the fear of LOSS.

Everyone's favorite short green dude, Yoda, even said it in the latest Star Wars flick...

"Fear of loss leads to the dark side." And so it does. It leads you down a path where you never gain because you're too afraid of losing what you have.

An Alpha Man understands that the only way to live is to wake up each day and understand that everything you have was just given back to you today. And when he goes to sleep at night, he gives it all back.

Lose this attraction to your possessions before they possess you...
Whoah, I'm getting very philosophical here.

What I'm trying to get across to you here is that you should avoid becoming attached, even to TERMINOLOGY.

When someone tells you that being an Alpha is bad, or it's this and that, remember that they're trying to color your perception. They're trying to steer you away from a path of understanding and enlightenment.

Trust your own intelligence to figure out what an Alpha Man REALLY is. He's already inside of you. It just takes a little work to let this instinct out so that you can become the COMPLETE you.

There are a lot of guys out there who haven't been able to open themselves up to letting out this TRUE nature inside them. They hide it behind "Politically Correct" BS about not hurting other people's feelings, or being sensitive.

It's really a fear to let other people see the REAL you. The man that wants to achieve.
The man that wants women in his life.
The man that wants monetary success.
The man that wants power over the forces of life that seem to control him.

Forget about all this "Alpha" talk and just open your mind up to finding this part of you that isn't held back by fear, and is ready to reach out for understanding that could - and will - change your life for the better.

So on one hand we have the lowly AFC, or non-Alpha. He's a little insecure, possibly low self-esteem, but WANTS to grow and change. On the other hand we have the Alpha, the confident and assertive man with healthy communication and self-esteem.

There is only one direction of growth here, and it's from the AFC to the Alpha.

What is the Alpha?

He's a MODEL.

He's the prodigal "seducer," if you will. The Model is an example that we can use to illustrate the best case scenario. The Ideal. (Kind of like how Michelangelo's statue of David exemplifies the perfection of the human form.)

You see, the AFC can't make a quantum leap and BECOME the Alpha all at once. It's not that simple. He needs an idea of what this goal is that he's pursuing that gives him the result of "I'M SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN." The Alpha Model provides him with a framework - a picture to draw in his mind of the attitude he's after.

How does the AFC become the Dynamic Man - The Alpha Man - then?

By creating a PATH.

We, gentlemen, provide that Path of development - the inspiration, tactics, and practical field examples that this AFC can then use to pin on his mental framework of the Alpha Man. The Model becomes clearer in his mind the more he uses the tactics and strategies and gains understanding through their application.

Now, when he uses these techniques, he only needs to understand that by using them he is merely brushing in more of the mental picture of how he can achieve this state of Alpha Man.

Without tactics and strategies to use, he becomes the Wanderer, likely to fall into the pit of self-pity. He begins the path to the Dark Side ---> He starts to fall back on the path of passive easygoing Nice Guy. This false path is logical, after all, and nothing appeals more to a man's mind than logic. And so begins his downward spiral.

Think of it like this: Here's a guy that's going to school to be a carpenter. A teacher can teach him all the skills he needs to measure, cut wood, sand it right, plane it, read the grain, chisel and sculpt it, stain it, and so on. After several long years of study he will leave school with the basics, the principles, but he will not have made them his OWN until he practices woodwork for a while. He'll have to spend many years figuring out the Art after he's learned the Science. Once he makes good woodwork, he'll then get the confidence to try and do more unique things. It builds into what I call the Upward Spiral.

But without that schooling, that learning of the science, he will be lucky to get anything more than a hit-and-miss success rate. With much more miss than hit.

I'm only here for the intelligent guy, like you, who knows that his ego very often short-circuits his success, and it is only through self-development that we can get rid of the insecurity so that he can combine the Science with the Art. I teach the Path. The Path leads from the AFC from his state of despair and ignorance to the Alpha Man.

And the Art of Seduction is really nothing more than building the confidence and self-esteem to reveal his true personality, while understanding what REALLY does work to stimulate female attraction.

An Alpha Man helps women get out of their own way to enjoy his company.

So how does the AFC build this confidence?

By trying these techniques in the real world and seeing what works.

It may sound like circular reasoning, but it's true. You can't learn confidence. You only gain it from shedding your insecure thinking - and that comes from taking action ... and you only take action when you've got enough confidence to take that risk of action once again.

The way to hop on this upward spiral is to have some Science to apply.

And then he gets to feel the reward of success deep down in his nervous system. This feeling is the fertilizer that grows his continued sense of confidence.

So the moral of this story, brothers, is that my advice and ebooks provide the moving conveyer of information that feeds his upward spiral.

Only through repetition and practice - and courage to persist.

Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you want to know how to counter her tests and games? Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor? Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results? It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll "Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing. It doesn't have to be anymore. THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.

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